There are some people who may seek to draw you into sexual relationships. They might be nice to you initially by showing lots of affection, by inviting you to parties and buying you alcohol, drugs, clothes, mobile phones or other gifts.
This might start of casual and friendly, but it might slowly turn more and more towards pressuring you into performing sexual acts.
You might have also shared a picture online that you really wish you hadn't, and now someone is blackmailing you to post more, or to perform sexual acts in photos or videos.
No-one should pressure you to have sex.
This includes getting you to touch yourself in front of others or in front of a webcam, or having someone touch themself in front of you. It also includes making you look at pornographic photos or films.
The people who do this aim to draw young people like you into swapping or selling sex. They are not really your friends.
They might make you feel guilty or ashamed for what you have done, to make you keep quiet.
You need to know that there is help available.
Spot the warning signs
These could be some of the signs that show you could be at risk: • Being friends with older adults • Having an older boyfriend or girlfriend • Not hanging around with friends your own age or less often • Tried and use drugs and alcohol • Chatting to people online who you have never met • Going missing for hours or overnight • Having strained relationships at home • Going off with people in cars that you don’t know • Being invited to parties with people you don’t know • Hanging around in areas that people don’t think are safe
How to get help
You need to know that whatever has happened, you are not responsible for it and you are not in trouble with the police.
If you feel that you might be in an exploitative relationship, the first step is to tell someone about it.
This could be a parent, carer, teacher or the police.
If you want to contact us here at States of Jersey Police on 612612 we have a dedicated, understanding and supportive Personal Protection Unit .
We will help you through what is happening and work as hard as possible to stop the abusers from hurting you any further, or harming anyone else.